This fall I was at a wedding (flying solo, I might add, as two flights for our household twice in 4 weeks was too much) and the time came for the bride to toss the bouquet. I’ve always thought I was a pretty traditional girl and I like a lot of wedding traditions. I love a playful cake smash. I’m the most enthusiastic dancer to SHOUT. I enjoy those silly, expected things.
So when the DJ announced that all the single girls should head to the foot of the staircase for the bouquet toss, I hesitated. The girl who catches the bouquet is the one who’s supposed to get married next, right? Well hey, I’m not going to pass up a chance for that to be me. But then again, I would never group myself into the “single gals” category. That’s just not where I am in my life. It felt a little disrespectful to N. There is a great possibility that I was over thinking all of this, as over thinking things is definitely my m.o.
I followed the lead of another girl at my table who was at the wedding with her long-term boyfriend. She went and I followed. But as I stood there with maybe 10 other ladies, I felt pretty pathetic. A little desperate. Add in my complete lack of athleticism and I knew I had a zero percent chance of catching that bouquet, nor did I want to. I felt like jumping for it elaborately or making a wild effort would just emphasize that feeling. So I smiled and stood completely still, as the bride tossed the bouquet into the hands of someone else. Relief washed over me.
I decided almost instantly that I wouldn’t continue this tradition if we go the wedding route. I don’t know that I’ll participate in the future either. It just didn’t make me feel good. Again, this totally could have everything to do with me over thinking things. I’ve been guilty of that many times. I also completely understand why brides do it. It’s tradition! It’s supposed to be fun! I guess I’m wondering how other women really feel about the bouquet toss? Do you participate? How does it make you feel? Did you do one at your wedding?
Aside from that, it’s a damn expensive little bit of your wedding to just toss away. In other news, I now know that bouquet is not a word I’m capable of spelling correctly the first time. Happy Thursday.