Today I’m thrilled to introduce Steph from The Vibrant Living Project. Steph is a health coach, yoga lover, and artist. Her heart-felt, thought provoking posts have been comforting to me, especially lately. I’ll let her take it from here…
When I graduated from college, all I could think was “what now?” I didn’t have a job, I was moving back home and I was slightly panicked. I wanted to be independent, and get started with my ‘real life’ I just didn’t know how to begin.
I was lost because I had graduated with honors, majoring in a field that wasn’t even slightly interesting to me. I felt the pressure of expectations–my own and other’s–and wasn’t sure how to handle it. I had thoughts like: shouldn’t I be ready to take on the world? I had made all of the right moves, but still wasn’t ready to move forward.
So instead of jumping into the rat race, I took the summer off. It was a slacker move, but I loved every minute of it. I rented a beach house with some friends from college (okay it was really a trailer without wheels) and we crammed 5 girls into 2 bedrooms. We all got jobs as cocktail waitresses at a popular spot and had the time of our lives–I gained 10 pounds to prove it.
My days were filled with beach time, rehashing the previous night over fried egg sandwiches and afternoon naps. Each night of drink slinging was more fun than the next. It was the perfect way to extend my college experience: simple and fun.
Looking back, I realize why I felt so stuck after graduating college: I needed to pause before transitioning to the next step. I needed to learn how to let go of my old life, and catch my breath so I could grab hold of a new one.
Late night heart-to-hearts with my friends made me realize I wasn’t alone in my confusion; they, too, felt overwhelmed and unsure of how to proceed. We were all stuck in the in-between. This phase was a process of learning how to become who we were meant to be.
The ironic part is that in the stillness, we learn to move forward. It’s where we transition from who we are to who we are becoming: student to adult, being solo to a being a part of a couple, single to married, career woman to mother. Our subconscious speaks to us and tells us what we need to remember in order to move ahead.
This transitional phase at the beach house was an amazing gift–among the late nights, deep talks and beer parties, I stood still long enough to dream about the life I really wanted, not just the one that I was expected to live. Conversations with friends and connecting through our fear inspired me to push through and get moving.
Now when I encounter an in-between time, I remind myself that the in-between is a phase of it’s own that ushers us along. Beautiful creatures don’t often arrive with their dazzling traits; the butterfly and the bird struggle in their own in-between, to strengthen the wings that carry them to their next destination. It reminds me that I am often finding my wings, too.