How To Respond To Blog Comments the Wrong Way

I’ve been blogging for a year and a half.
And for a year, I was doing it all wrong. 
You see, here’s how I was responding to blog comments:

What’s wrong with that? You might ask.
Well, for one, these two lovely ladies did not get an email with my response.
But the biggest problem? 
I was missing out on the easiest way to form blogging friendships.
For some of you, this post is going to be like:
For the first year of blogging I wondered, how do all of these people in blog world become friends? 
Do they just reach out to each other randomly? 
Maybe sometimes. But in most cases, NO.
Tons of blog friendships are formed when one comment response turns in to a back and forth that keeps going and later you realize: you have a real bloggy friend. 
So how do you set up your comments so you can answer via email?
Head to your blogger dashboard, settings, then mobile and email (above).
Make sure your email is listed here.
And once that’s set up, comments will come in to your email and will look like this:
From there you respond to the comment as if it were a regular email.
See those numbers? Those are back and forth conversations, folks!
And that’s how the magic happens.
Now am I saying it is the worst thing in the world to hit reply on the comment itself and reply that way? No. But chances are, the commenter probably isn’t going to come back and check to see if you replied. You are missing out on an opportunity to build relationships!
There is a downside to replying to comments via email and that is this:
other people cannot see that you responded. Sometimes I worry that people who look at my comments think I’m a huge beeyotch who never responds. But I do, I really do!
Unless you’re a no-reply blogger.
In my year and a half of blogging, my biggest regret is 
that I did not change how I was replying to comments sooner. 
What is the one thing that you wish someone had told you when you started blogging?
Happy Friday!

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  • Thanks so much for sharing! I didn’t know this either…now it all makes sense!! Happy Friday! 🙂

  • I love this! I sometimes want to tell no-reply comment bloggers to change their settings also, but I don’t want to be rude

  • I recently started to reply to blog comments through this way. Then I realised I was replying to no-reply bloggers, argh! nightmare. Now all replying, which I thought “get me im doing a good job” has all been for nothing because no one got my replies. Tut. I have now made sure I have turned on my show email address setting and hope others do. Thanks for prompting me 🙂 xx

    The Shutterbug Blog

  • Val

    I do this too dammit! I feel like a butt now…


  • This is a great share! Blogger can be tricky like that. Took me a few months to figure this out too! But what I want to know is how to color code/organize your gmail inbox like that!!

  • This is exactly why I signed up for disqus early on. When I started, Blogger did not have a reply option so I went with disqus. I have loved it since because it always e-mails the person with your response. Let’s face it, if we comment back I doubt the person is coming back to our blog just to see the comment. However, if it’s e-mailed we know they saw it. I’m glad you share this so other bloggers can start doing this, too!!

  • I spent THE longest time replying directly on the post before I finally realized that e-mal was easier.
    Thanks for sharing!
    <3 Kiersten

  • Such great advice! For a while I didn’t know that I was one of those dreaded “no-reply” bloggers and I was wondering the same thing, like whyyy don’t I have any friends??? But now I do and it’s awesome. I also wish someone would have taught me about link-ups sooner… it was MONTHS before I participated in my first one.

  • This is great advice. I’ve been blogging for over two years and up until last week, I had no idea about this! I use Word Press though, so it might be different (?). When I reply directly through my blog, a lot of readers reply again which means they received my comment, but I don’t know if they’ve all received them. SO annoying!

  • Ahh, I definitely have been doing this wrong. Even when I got replies in my email, I went back to check the post I commented on to see if the blogger replied there, of course they didn’t because they were using this method through email. It all makes sense now haha!

  • ok so I’m a D.A. I thought it was the opposite! Whomp whomp.

  • I use WordPress and the Disqus commenting system, so this doesn’t apply to me, but it’s super helpful for those who use Blogspot! I like Disqus because if you create an account, you get the responses e-mailed to you. However, when my readers don’t login with their Disqus account, they never get to see my responses which stinks 🙁

  • I loved being able to email back and forth with comments! I was like you at first too, though – I was replying in the posts and didn’t realize people weren’t getting them! When I switched to disqus it made everything so much better (in my opinion)! Because I can reply, it goes in-post and the sender still gets the response via email – win win!

  • I love this post, Nadine! I was definitely doing it ‘wrong’ until about a week or so ago. I use Disqus, so it’s a bit different, but I’ve really enjoyed being able to email back and forth with other bloggers… all starting with post comments!

  • Haha! YES!!!! I did this in the beginning too!

    Thanks for always directing no-reply bloggers my way. Love ya!

  • I was doing it just like that as well, then figured it all out. I just wish people would stop being no-reply bloggers, I want so bad to respond to them!

  • ha I love this. Us wordpress bloggers have a little bit of a different situation. It looks like if we use Google+ to sign into blogger blogs (like this) you all can’t reply. lame. I use Disqqus now so that peeps on all platforms can interact. I can respond on my blog (and you all get notified) or by email. I am in love!

  • I just learned this too. You learn something new everyday!

  • Well I consider you my bloggy friend especially because I see my name among the other names in that example, hehehehe!!!!!!!

    Happy Friday lady!

    xo Dinah @ Sunshine super glam

  • Gah! I’ve been doing it wrong! Thanks for this post!

  • I love when my inbox looks like that 🙂

  • Yeah, WordPress makes this tricky on Blogger blogs, BUT I’ve figured out a way to make it work (post coming at the end of May). I, too, regret that I didn’t reply via email sooner…I actually reply both by email and on my blog because I like that other readers can see my response. I love seeing the actual bloggers response to the comments as well. I have a question, though, I’ve never continued a conversation with someone who’s replied to my comment? Any thoughts on this? I guess I’ve never REALLY kept a conversation going because I’m still a little nervous to reach out.

  • Definitely did not know this! Thanks!

  • Damn. I wasn’t doing this. What a dummy! Thanks! xx

  • I’m on the comment email list!!! Does this mean we are bloggy friends??

  • I had a real life friend reply that way and she was so confused when she would ask a question and not get a response. I was able to help her respond via email and change her to no longer be a no reply blogger.

    New follower!

  • I was never a no reply blogger but the comments always came to the wrong email and I hated it. Thanks for showing me how to change it.

  • Awww man 🙁 I didn’t know this, you left a comment on my blog a while ago and I replied there so you probably didn’t see it! Thanks for sharing, I’m still really new to all this and posts like this are so helpful 🙂

    Pam xx

  • So, in my Gmail inbox, I just hit reply? THIS IS MAGICAL

  • My first year of blogging I was responding the wrong way too! It was incredible the kind of world that opened up once I was responding correctly! 🙂

  • Ahhhh!! hahaha. I have been blogging for two years & been doing it wrong! So silly!

  • Thank you for taking the time to share this 🙂 I NEED to do this!
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  • I figured this out awhile back, but have been trying to do both — reply on the blog and via email (thank goodness for copy + paste!) I like seeing reply comments on blogs, but I also like the opportunity for further communication via email.

  • I loved this post simply because for the first year or so that I blogged, I didn’t even know you COULD comment. Silly me.

  • I immediately went and checked to see if I was set up this way. Luckily, I was – how, I don’t know. Thanks for the tip!

  • I totally agree, SO importatn!

    Sparkles and Shoes

  • Thanks for posting this..otherwise I would have never come across it.

  • This post just saved me from being a jerk! I couldn’t figure out how to reply! There is no “reply” button. Is it obvious I never get comments? hahah

  • Thank you for this! I’m dying to form some blogger relationships and have totally been responding to comments all wrong! I must look like a big ole jerkface!

  • This post is worth it’s weight in gold. Thanks a million!

  • Thank you for this! Love the “duh” pic.

  • I wish there was a ‘forward to everyone’ button on blog posts because I really wish more bloggers replied this way and would stop being ‘no reply’ bloggers and life would be so much easier!!!!!

  • Im having an issue with this now. I recently realized that my replies through my blog weren’t getting email notifications sent out with them. Unfortunately for me, I have a wordpress blog and have no idea how to fix that. 🙁

  • Okay, I think that I fixed mine. Will you comment back and see if I get an email? Thank you so much for this post!!

  • So glad I found this post!
    I always just hit the reply button.
    Thanks so much(:

  • Thanks for sharing this it was really helpful, I made my changes. Now I only hope my readers and followers do to, so I can keep the convos going with them. By the way I blogged about this for my readers and linked you in my post since your walk through was so well done, hope you don’t mind you can check it out, if I used proper blog link back etiquette. New follower.

  • Thanks for the tips! This was very helpful!

  • Thanks for the great tips! I always love when established bloggers take the time to help out the little guys. It’s nice to feel included in this blog world!

  • I keep hearing about this nonreply blogger and don’t know if I am one or not! I comment as my google name, is this wrong? I don’t really want this to link to my G+ account because I never use it! So, how do I get it to link directly to my blog?!

    I feel like I have to be doing it wrong lol


    P.S. Email me directly if I am this annoying non-reply!

  • I stumbled upon this after realizing I was doing something wrong. I started blogging this July. I finally figured out how to stop being a no-reply blogger and finally was getting responses from blogs I posted on via email. Then I was all “How are they responding to me via email?!!”

    I searched the internet and couldn’t find anything until I found this post. So thank you, thank you, thank you. I feel like such a moron. I always wondered why people didn’t respond to my responses on my blog comments (especially when I asked questions…I figured they just were bored by me). And I wondered by bloggers were being “mean” and not responding to their commenters. It all makes sense now. You just made me so happy. Thanks again. I know this an old post but I’m just beyond excited I found this ha.

  • AJ

    omg omg omg omg omg omg omg

    thank you soososoososo much!

    I was not a no reply blogger but i couldnt figure out why i couldn’t respond to some ppl!

    now i get it!

    thank you sosososo much again 🙂

    AJ | TheAJMinute
    Twitter |Bloglovin

  • OH MY GOSH. Mind blown. I have been doing this completely wrong! AH! I was wondering why I was never hearing back from people. Thank you SO much for posting this – this helps me so much! You rock and I love your blog 🙂

  • Thanks for sharing! I’ve been doing it wrong too. I’d go back to my blog and then reply there.. but like you said, le duh, chances are the commenter won’t see it!

  • Thanks for sharing! I’ve been doing it wrong too. I’d go back to my blog and then reply there.. but like you said, le duh, chances are the commenter won’t see it!

  • Thank you so much for this tutorial!

  • Just found this post via good ole’ google. It was exactly what I was looking for, since I am too internet challenged to figure this out myself. You answered the exact question I was looking for! Thanks!

  • AHHH LIFE SAVER!!! I have been trying to figure this out for so long, and have felt so terrible that I haven’t been able to email response comments to people. I totally feel like a beyotch too because people are reading my blog and I’m not responding when I want to!!


  • Hi, that are an great article.

  • Attitude of bloggers should be like politicians, if greeted you should greet back. . .thnx for the info.

  • That is SO good to know! I had no idea that it worked that way. I’ve been thinking and reading about blogging for awhile now, and the whole reason I get excited about blogging is its propensity to foster community. Thanks so much for sharing! 🙂

  • Ashley

    As you know, I’m new to blogging. Kerry from “Till Then Smile Often” sent me the link to this post and it is very helpful. Thank you!

  • I wish I could stop being a no-reply blogger, but no one on the planet seems to have figured out how to make that happen for us few WordPressers. Sigh.

  • Thank you for this post, I’ve been trying to work out how to get my replies to email to commenters, now I understand you just email directly 🙂

  • Ok, how have I never seen this post until now?! I’ve followed your blog for a long time now and I didn’t see this until I googled “Reply by email on blogger”. Recently I was made aware that I was a no-reply blogger…so I took to google to 1) Figure out what the HECK that meant and 2) Fix it. After that, I realized…everyone seems to be replying by email to my comments. I wasn’t sure if there was some super fancy way to do this, but now I KNOW! You literally hit reply when the email comes up that I had a blog comment. GAH! So easy. I feel really dumb. Thanks for that. Haha!

    xo Denise

  • I always get my comments delivered to my email, but I never knew you could respond that way. I really hate the way you have to comment on blogger and I don’t like the whole commenting on google plus. I wish it would be easier

  • This is a great tip for newbees! Thanks for point that out! You have saved me from making the same mistake! ^_^

    Kianny Cordon

  • Wow. Seriously? I had no idea! I always wondered how bloggers became friends! I have recently started my own blog (after being an avid reader for years) and am struggling to discover this “community” that I keep hearing about from the blogs I read.
    Thank you for saying what no one else has said before!

  • I am hoping you can help me. I do a lot of blogging and hops. When I would comment on others blogs they would always respond. Recently I had to get a new email address. I changed it in my settings in my blog so all that comment on my blog go to my mew enail. But I found that when I comment on others blogs, they cannot reach me any longer. Do you know how and where I can add my new email? Thank you.

  • Interesting! I never used blogger, but I recently switched from to Do you still do this now that you’re self-hosted? If so, how do you set it up? Thanks!

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