5 Ways a Dog Changes Your Relationship

5 Ways A Dog Changes Your Relationship

I don’t think I could properly convey exactly how Archie has changed our relationship. He has. Plain and simple. Our dynamics are different, our habits have changed, and he’s brought so much joy to our lives and our relationship. But it’s different. Here’s how:

1. Welcome to the world of Mom and Dad

I am Archie’s Mom and N is Archie’s Dad. And we refer to each other as those names, when speaking on behalf of Archie (which I do… a lot) or speaking to Archie. It’s our new normal so maybe it will make the transition to parenting human children a little less awkward.

When N steps through the door and Archie and I are home, I exclaim (in my best Archie voice) “DAD! You’re home! I’m so happy to see you Dad! You’re the best! We love you! I’m so happy!” It’s obnoxious. I guess you also learn that your significant other may talk in a baby voice 20% of the time for the rest of your life. Fun stuff.


I am adamantly against talking about bodily functions with my romantic partner. We are a strictly closed-door, no gross things in front of each other, let’s pretend it doesn’t happen, type couple. And suddenly, POOP! We have to communicate about what business he did and when. I like to leave this nice and vague…did he do all his business? I still hate talking about it but it has to happen.

3. Bye-bye big spoon

We used to cuddle. Now Archie sleeps smack dab in the middle (proof and more proof). Rude. We have the cuddliest dog in the entire world (proof). He has zero concept of personal space and wants all the cuddles all for himself. Like I said, rude.

4. The blame game

Somewhere along the way of dog training and parenthood, someone will believe they are doing more of the work. This is inevitable, especially when it’s 2 degrees outside and you have to get all decked out in snow gear just to let the dog out. You learn to work through it, to step up when it’s you who isn’t doing enough of the work, and to forgive your partner when it’s them doing less.

5. Permanence

We both knew we were in it for the long haul before we got Archie. We pay for everything dog related (well, everything really) 50/50 and neither of us “owns” (I hate that word about dog parenthood. He isn’t a possession. He’s our child.) Archie more than the other. He’s ours. Sure, you can feel like your relationship is permanent but once you get a dog, you realize you couldn’t imagine life without the other person and the dog. He’s like a way less official version of a marriage license.

Overall, Archie has been the most perfect, sweet, beautiful, angel muffin, schmoo-bear, lambchop, little goose we could ever ask for. If you couldn’t tell from my Instagram, I’m obsessed with him (follow me for lots of golden cuteness). When he was a baby we’d sit around for hours just watching him walk and fall over and giggling about how freaking cute he was (he’s still freaking cute). I hear parents of human children do this exact same thing. He’s been good practice.

Baby Archie and N

Now when we walk through the door, he greets us like he hasn’t seen us in years. Tail a-wagging, eyes a-smiling, literally attacking us with love. It still astounds offends me when someone says “I’m not a dog person.” Tell that to Archie. He’ll make you a dog person. And he makes our relationship even better, every single day.

As I wrote this post, Archie sat right up against me on the couch, making typing a challenge. Like I said, zero concept of personal space.


  • You have such a way with words.

    Yes to all of the above. Chip and Daisy greet is like we’ve been gone for ages. Even if we just pull right back into the driveway when we forget something.

    And yes to the talks about poop. Ew.

  • Archie is seriously one of the cutest dogs on the planet. I never get sick of your IG pics of him!

  • Lauren Harrelson

    I dont trust people who arent dog people. At all. He lives here. You dont. And all of these are MADLY INSANELY accurate.

  • Archie is so adorable! Goldens are the best, they totally look like they’re smiling!!! 🙂 The BF and I want a dog (well, more me…) but we also love to travel. Oh what to do!??!

  • Oh my gosh. That picture of Archie as a puppy? I die.

  • Archie is too precious. And I agree – SO offensive when people aren’t dog people. How can they not be?! I feel the same way about my teacup yorkie, Knox, w ho is also the star of my Instagram and currently laying on my elbow.

  • I couldn’t agree more, and Archie is adorable! When I get home from work and Seamus comes barreling down the stairs with his tail wagging it just melts my heart. They really do change your life!

  • #3!!! We were just talking about it the other day, and Howie is only ten pounds! 😛 But he’s the “middle” spoon because he always lays with his back to Joe and up against my back. It’s cute… but not… 😛

  • Awe!! So darn cute! We’ve been wanting to adopt a Corgi and I can’t wait for the day that I get to take that little fluff ball of cuteness home!

  • Samantha

    That picture of him as a puppy!! Stop. Too cute! And our dog does the same thing.. In addition to our 2 year old. Clown car bed as we like to call it.

  • There are few things cuter than a golden puppy. So sweet.

  • HAHA, #2. Yep, ‘nuf said. Hi Archie! x

    Here’s my butterball Chewbacca.


  • OMG, that last photo. I seriously am dying. We think we have the world’s cuddliest dog too. It’s ridiculous. We haven’t touched sleeping in about 3 years. HAHA. I love this list because it’s so, so true. We got a dog 5 months after we started dating, and everything thought we were crazy. Three years, one marriage and another dog later, we’re a happy dog fam. Keep these photos and dog posts coming! 😉 Love Archie.

  • JC

    You forgot about when you are trying to have a romantic moment, or the really good part in a movie comes on and they need to go out, or jump on you or do something.

  • I feel like you guys are going to be the most pushover parents ever. Lucky kid. I literally am so excited to get out of school, find a pet-friendly apartment, and adopt a damn dog. I’ve been waiting for it all my life, and am almost there ahhh!

  • Archie is such an a cute dog! and an even more adorable puppy!

  • We were on the same page yesterday! Finn has changed our life in the best way possible. He most certainly has a voice and we speak like him often!

  • Don’t hate me, but I’m really not a dog person. They say you had to have grown up with one to be one, and we weren’t allowed to have pets. And it’s as if dogs KNOW you aren’t a dog person, because they seek you out! It takes me awhile to get used to them, but I eventually end up liking my friends’ doggies

  • Laura

    Your obsession with Archie makes me feel a lot more normal about my obsession with my dog. I frequently talk “as” her to my boyfriend/her dad. I also ask her the same questions when I get home from work every day, and offer suggestions for what she might’ve done on her “dog day.” I frequently tell her that she has no idea that she’s a dog because I treat her like a human/my child. Dogs are seriously the best things on earth!

  • Brianne Bracco

    The rule we have is the person on the couch all cuddled up who asks if the puppy has to “go potty” first has to take her out…but she definitely knows who to go to for certain things..she can get away with a lot from daddy…it urcks me. lol

  • I do that with Bosley too “YAY!! Dad is home! Hi Dad!”

  • Thank you so much for this post! It reminds me so much of my boyfriend and I with our dog Dexter. We’ve had him for a year and a half now and it has definitely changed our relationship…but for good! This post made me laugh and now I can’t wait to get home to my little furry child & love. <3

  • He is sooo beautiful!

  • He was so little and this was a great list!

  • Hahahahaha, are we the same exact person! This was all straight out of my head, I swear! Especially about “did he do alll the business?” – word for word the phrase I use to talk about that delicate situation!
    Enter my current giveaway!

  • Kym

    Meeeh! Your puppity-pup is the cutest Nadine! Dogs/pets DEFINITELY change the dynamics of your relationship! The temps have been -12 here in Denver for the past 3 days so I’m totally hearing ‘ya on #4. And big spoon little spoon? WELL – we have a king sized bed … the other night TJ and I were shoved onto 1/4 of the bed, while Brutus was sleeping sideways taking up the rest. Who is the alpha in this house?? HA!

  • as a dog mom i could not agree more with this post. all of the changes, as annoying as they can be, have all turned out to be worth it! and your pup is gorgeous!

  • Yes yes and yes! Totally agree!

  • This is spot-on! Everything from not talking about poop unless it has to do with Sprout, having a constant 25 lbs of fluff in the bed, etc… So true, and I wouldn’t give any of it up 🙂


  • Yes, yes, and more yes. My husband took the dog out to poop as I started reading this post. They’re not back yet AND I MISS THEM SO MUCH HOW HAVE I SURVIVED THE LAST FIVE MINUTES WITHOUT MY LITTLE POOPYFACE. I LOVE HIS POOPY FACE.

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  • That baby picture of Archie makes me squeal in joy! He’s so adorable. And seriously the “mom” and “dad” was kind of weird at first, but now it’s just normal that I say everyday “DAD’S HOME!”

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